daughter quiz (Answers will vary between true/false and multiple choice.) 1. I’m honest with my mom: ___ a. all the time. ___ b. most of the time. ___ c. once in a while. ___ d. only when I know my honesty won’t get me in trouble. 2. I tell my mom at least twice a week that I love her. _____True _____False 3. My mom’s self-esteem: ___ a. is healthy. ___ b. is very low. ___ c. influences my own self-esteem. ___ d. waivers depending on the circumstances. 4. I trust Mom explicitly. _____True _____False 5. I can talk with my mom: ___ a. about anything at any time. ___ b. only during the times she’s not too busy. ___ c. only about surface-level things. ___ d. if I act like I have a crisis. 6. If I have a question about the facts of life, or sexuality in general, I’ll go to my mom. _____True _____False 7. My mom helps me understand and embrace my role as a female. _____True _____False 8. Sometimes I hate my body or have questions about myself. During these times: ___ a. I talk with Mom about it. ___ b. I talk with friends. ___ c. I just stay confused and don’t talk with anyone. ___ d. I yearn to talk with someone but don’t know who to go to. 9. I understand and embrace my role as a female from a biblical viewpoint. _____True _____False 10. My mom and I often pray together. _____True _____False 11. My relationship with Christ: ___ a. is solid and growing. ___ b. often waivers. ___ c. is non-existent. ___ d. is extremely private. 12. My mom’s relationship with Christ: ___ a. is solid and growing. ___ b. often waivers. ___ c. is non-existent. ___ d. is extremely private. 13. I view God: ___ a. as my best Friend and Savior. ___ b. as Someone to think about in church. ___ c. as a hateful and cruel ruler. ___ d. with mixed feelings. 14. For my mom and I to grow together spiritually: ___ a. we’d need to first grow closer to Christ. ___ b. we’d need to get plugged into a church. ___ c. we’d need to start reading the Bible, praying together and discussing spiritual things. ___ d. we’d have to both want to grow spiritually. 15. If my mom were to honestly relay how she feels about me: ___ a. she’d express love and gratitude. ___ b. she’d say she loves me, but she’d also say we often disagree about things. ___ c. she’d say she loves me, because that sounds good, but I’m not sure I’d really believer her. ___ d. she’d say she regrets having me. 16. When I’m upset with my mom, I let her know. _____True _____False 17. When my mom is upset with me: ___ a. we talk it out. ___ b. she admits there’s a problem, but she distances herself and refuses to talk. ___ c. she denies a problem even exists and keeps her feelings inside. ___ d. she verbally expresses her anger. 18. The times my mom and I have fun: ___ a. are filled with laughter and camaraderie. ___ b. rarely happen. ___ c. usually happen when we’re doing something she has to do anyway (shopping for work,, work-related errands that she includes me in, etc.). ___ d. are extremely limited because of her time schedule or ______________________ (other). 19. I wish I could talk to my mom about anything and know she wouldn’t get mad. _____True _____False 20. I pray for my mom: ___ a. often. ___ b. very rarely. ___ c. if there’s a need. ___ d. when I think about it. Girls, did you discover any areas that need a little help? Now that we’ve looked at some of your relationship laundry, let’s take a peek at picking up the laundry. (The rest of this is available in the book, Here for You: Creating a Mother/Daughter Bond That Lasts a Lifetime.